Anal sex can be something that a lot of girls learn to enjoy but the problem is; most guys don’t know how to do it the first few times without making some very critical errors. After that, most girls will argue against it forever and the slightest mistake on your first virgin run will have ruined what could have been a career of enjoyment for the both of you.
Actually, many experts say that as many as one in four straight couples have already tried anal sex so it doesn’t have to be considered a “sexual taboo” unless you decide that for yourself. By making some of the critical errors on your first time out, you will indeed place it into the “taboo” category and kiss this exercise in pleasure goodbye. The biggest error for most guys can be avoided because it is the simple error of going too fast and hurting your partner. Then, before she has even had a chance to determine if she likes it or not, the case is closed.
Communicate
Guys, if you’re too scared to talk about it in a mature way then you aren’t ready to do it. In order to actually enjoy anal sex, a girl needs her guy to have some idea of what he’s doing and he needs to be confident. You also need to be able to communicate with your partner about her true feelings about the act and whether she is really ready to do this or not.
Despite all the touchiness around the subject, the idea of anal sex is actually quite a turn-on for a lot of women but the intrigue gets smashed as soon as she becomes afraid that her man isn’t mature enough to handle the topic or the activity.
Since there’s really no “right” way to start talking about it, it often helps to begin with something less intimidating… like your index finger.
A more experienced lady might even help her man along by putting his finger in there for him. Then she can coach him along so as to avoid all the difficulties that can come with this daring escapade.
If you aren’t so lucky to have a partner like this, try moving your finger down there in the middle of some particularly intense sex. Then press your penis toward that area on several different occasions until the topic comes up about what you had “almost wanted to do”. You can get a pretty good idea about her willingness for such exercises after you breach the subject.
Some women report the most powerful orgasms they’ve ever had while having anal sex so it sometimes helps to be led in the right direction first. Ask your sweetheart to lead you down that road and put her in the driver seat guys. Do it like an experiment and don’t expect to enjoy it the fist time you set out to reach new ground. You may be very glad you were able to take some simple instructions the first time out because this could open up a whole new world of pleasure and enjoyment for both of you down the road.
Lubricate
After you decide to try it out and to take it very slowly, make preparations to generously coat your penis with a heavy water-based lube. This is something that cannot be stressed enough.
True, the vagina has natural lubrication but the backdoor doesn’t! Without sufficient lubrication you can even hurt yourself or your partner in a very extreme way. As long as you use a condom and enough lube, you’ll be much safer. Then make sure you don’t thrust too deep and wait for her to get used to it.
There you go! With these simple suggestions, you should be well on your way to enjoying this seemingly “taboo” activity with a great deal of fun and pleasure.
Anal sex doesn’t have to be a terrifying experience the first time. Just make a point to talk about it before you take action and then make the necessary preparations to do it safely and smoothly. After the first few experiences are through, you will find that this is an area of enjoyment you never thought you would experience and you will be awfully glad you did.
Tuesday, July 6, 2010
Sunday, July 4, 2010
Watch Her Engaging in “Self Love”!
A woman masturbating in front of her partner is a predominantly male fantasy. Women tend to enjoy interacting with their partners when they are together and then play with herself alone.
For all possible reasons, be it mere curiosity, adolescent associations, voyeuristic tendencies, or something else altogether, this fantasy to watch a woman masturbate has strong appeal to men of all ages. So why keep it a fantasy?
Ways to Persuade Her to Engage in ‘Self-Love’ Right Before Your Eyes
First and the most important factor that will eventually lead towards fulfilling your fantasy is trust. Your partner has to trust you. If she trusts you, it’s amazing how easy it can be to accomplish this goal.
It may be as simple as asking her to do it. But more often than not, you need to build on the trust between you first, and this may take some time. Some women are so dependent on their men, they would almost instantly do anything to please him. Other women will never do a single thing that makes them uncomfortable, no matter how much they love their partners. Therefore, one of the goals here would be to make your woman feel comfortable enough to succumb to playing out this fantasy of yours.
To convince her to do it for the first time is a problem, because how do you tell her what you want in a proper and non-demeaning way? An honest relationship allows you to approach your partner with all your needs and desires, so simply explaining to her this fantasy you harbor would be a good start. If she is reluctant, offer to do it first.
Ask your partner to sit down, fully clothed and have her watch you masturbate. Do not allow her to interact, just allow her to watch.
Perhaps it would help if you offer her to role-play. The story would go something like this: she is alone at home, in bed, reading. You are a burglar who got surprised by her early return and who is hiding in the closet. She can then pretend that nobody is home and have a go at herself, while you are in the closet ogling your eyes out.
Also, be careful of being misunderstood by your request to watch her masturbate. Think of it from her point of view: she is present, ready and willing to have sex with you… and you prefer to just watch and not engage with her?
Unless you really explain why you want to do it this way, she’ll figure you’re a pervert. You, on the other hand, will have a hard time staying put. At some point the pressure in your pants will go berserk, so calculate that occurrence when you propose to do a purely voyeuristic encounter.
Why Masturbation is Good for Your Relationship
Why is it important to go through with such a fantasy? This is because it is healthy for your relationship to live out all your sexual fantasies together with your partner.
If you don’t talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies and you leave them simmering in the back of your head, some day you will get a feeling as if you are missing out on something. Such desires can get very strong and ultimately ruin a good relationship.
The solution is to speak out about it. Women are smart, but they cannot read minds, again unless you are married to her for a decade or so. Actually, this advice to speak out about your sexual fantasies goes both ways. You need to ask her about her fantasies and reciprocate by fulfilling her desires too.
A very young relationship, where you have been together with a woman for a couple of days, or maybe weeks, is frail and asking your girlfriend to perform for you is a risk. However, if you are honest and able to properly define your reasons for asking such a thing, she may do it. And even if she doesn’t this should be fine with you.
There is plenty of time to get back to that idea later. An icebreaker may be to propose to masturbate simultaneously, watching each other. This may also be a solution in case she is reluctant to have real sex.
On the other hand, a mature relationship, perhaps a yearlong marriage, does very little to promote variety and sex is mostly a matter of catching a mutually convenient and physically possible moment to get intimate.
To waste that moment on a fantasy may seem ludicrous to you, but believe me that a change in the routine may be a very welcome surprise to your love life. It is always good to be creative and imaginative with your partner, so that she feels wanted, desirable, sexy and beautiful. After years of marriage, sometimes that validation is more important to a woman then having sex. So really, asking her to masturbate in front of you may be something she’s secretly delighted with!
For all possible reasons, be it mere curiosity, adolescent associations, voyeuristic tendencies, or something else altogether, this fantasy to watch a woman masturbate has strong appeal to men of all ages. So why keep it a fantasy?
Ways to Persuade Her to Engage in ‘Self-Love’ Right Before Your Eyes
First and the most important factor that will eventually lead towards fulfilling your fantasy is trust. Your partner has to trust you. If she trusts you, it’s amazing how easy it can be to accomplish this goal.
It may be as simple as asking her to do it. But more often than not, you need to build on the trust between you first, and this may take some time. Some women are so dependent on their men, they would almost instantly do anything to please him. Other women will never do a single thing that makes them uncomfortable, no matter how much they love their partners. Therefore, one of the goals here would be to make your woman feel comfortable enough to succumb to playing out this fantasy of yours.
To convince her to do it for the first time is a problem, because how do you tell her what you want in a proper and non-demeaning way? An honest relationship allows you to approach your partner with all your needs and desires, so simply explaining to her this fantasy you harbor would be a good start. If she is reluctant, offer to do it first.
Ask your partner to sit down, fully clothed and have her watch you masturbate. Do not allow her to interact, just allow her to watch.
Perhaps it would help if you offer her to role-play. The story would go something like this: she is alone at home, in bed, reading. You are a burglar who got surprised by her early return and who is hiding in the closet. She can then pretend that nobody is home and have a go at herself, while you are in the closet ogling your eyes out.
Also, be careful of being misunderstood by your request to watch her masturbate. Think of it from her point of view: she is present, ready and willing to have sex with you… and you prefer to just watch and not engage with her?
Unless you really explain why you want to do it this way, she’ll figure you’re a pervert. You, on the other hand, will have a hard time staying put. At some point the pressure in your pants will go berserk, so calculate that occurrence when you propose to do a purely voyeuristic encounter.
Why Masturbation is Good for Your Relationship
Why is it important to go through with such a fantasy? This is because it is healthy for your relationship to live out all your sexual fantasies together with your partner.
If you don’t talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies and you leave them simmering in the back of your head, some day you will get a feeling as if you are missing out on something. Such desires can get very strong and ultimately ruin a good relationship.
The solution is to speak out about it. Women are smart, but they cannot read minds, again unless you are married to her for a decade or so. Actually, this advice to speak out about your sexual fantasies goes both ways. You need to ask her about her fantasies and reciprocate by fulfilling her desires too.
A very young relationship, where you have been together with a woman for a couple of days, or maybe weeks, is frail and asking your girlfriend to perform for you is a risk. However, if you are honest and able to properly define your reasons for asking such a thing, she may do it. And even if she doesn’t this should be fine with you.
There is plenty of time to get back to that idea later. An icebreaker may be to propose to masturbate simultaneously, watching each other. This may also be a solution in case she is reluctant to have real sex.
On the other hand, a mature relationship, perhaps a yearlong marriage, does very little to promote variety and sex is mostly a matter of catching a mutually convenient and physically possible moment to get intimate.
To waste that moment on a fantasy may seem ludicrous to you, but believe me that a change in the routine may be a very welcome surprise to your love life. It is always good to be creative and imaginative with your partner, so that she feels wanted, desirable, sexy and beautiful. After years of marriage, sometimes that validation is more important to a woman then having sex. So really, asking her to masturbate in front of you may be something she’s secretly delighted with!
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