Backdoor Sex for Beginners

Anal sex can be something that a lot of girls learn to enjoy but the problem is; most guys don’t know how to do it the first few times without making some very critical errors. After that, most girls will argue against it forever and the slightest mistake on your first virgin run will have ruined what could have been a career of enjoyment for the both of you.

Actually, many experts say that as many as one in four straight couples have already tried anal sex so it doesn’t have to be considered a “sexual taboo” unless you decide that for yourself. By making some of the critical errors on your first time out, you will indeed place it into the “taboo” category and kiss this exercise in pleasure goodbye. The biggest error for most guys can be avoided because it is the simple error of going too fast and hurting your partner. Then, before she has even had a chance to determine if she likes it or not, the case is closed.

Communicate

Guys, if you’re too scared to talk about it in a mature way then you aren’t ready to do it. In order to actually enjoy anal sex, a girl needs her guy to have some idea of what he’s doing and he needs to be confident. You also need to be able to communicate with your partner about her true feelings about the act and whether she is really ready to do this or not.

Despite all the touchiness around the subject, the idea of anal sex is actually quite a turn-on for a lot of women but the intrigue gets smashed as soon as she becomes afraid that her man isn’t mature enough to handle the topic or the activity.

Since there’s really no “right” way to start talking about it, it often helps to begin with something less intimidating… like your index finger.

A more experienced lady might even help her man along by putting his finger in there for him. Then she can coach him along so as to avoid all the difficulties that can come with this daring escapade.

If you aren’t so lucky to have a partner like this, try moving your finger down there in the middle of some particularly intense sex. Then press your penis toward that area on several different occasions until the topic comes up about what you had “almost wanted to do”. You can get a pretty good idea about her willingness for such exercises after you breach the subject.

Some women report the most powerful orgasms they’ve ever had while having anal sex so it sometimes helps to be led in the right direction first. Ask your sweetheart to lead you down that road and put her in the driver seat guys. Do it like an experiment and don’t expect to enjoy it the fist time you set out to reach new ground. You may be very glad you were able to take some simple instructions the first time out because this could open up a whole new world of pleasure and enjoyment for both of you down the road.

Lubricate

After you decide to try it out and to take it very slowly, make preparations to generously coat your penis with a heavy water-based lube. This is something that cannot be stressed enough.

True, the vagina has natural lubrication but the backdoor doesn’t! Without sufficient lubrication you can even hurt yourself or your partner in a very extreme way. As long as you use a condom and enough lube, you’ll be much safer. Then make sure you don’t thrust too deep and wait for her to get used to it.

There you go! With these simple suggestions, you should be well on your way to enjoying this seemingly “taboo” activity with a great deal of fun and pleasure.

Anal sex doesn’t have to be a terrifying experience the first time. Just make a point to talk about it before you take action and then make the necessary preparations to do it safely and smoothly. After the first few experiences are through, you will find that this is an area of enjoyment you never thought you would experience and you will be awfully glad you did.