There’s no doubt about it; foreplay is an extremely important part of any relationship. Sadly, as our relationships ‘age’, we seem to focus on foreplay less and less and are just bent on reaching our orgasmic destinations.
Although there are a lot of tips that are given these days to bring back foreplay big time in your relationships, let’s face it, a lot of these tips are corny and impractical.
For instance, sex on the backseat of a car? That’ so uncomfortable!
French kissing? A tad boring.
Feeling her up down there? You do that already!
Adult Literature. Yes, don’t hide those adult reading materials anymore. Bring them all out and stack them beside your bed! When you guys tuck in for the night, grab one of them and start glancing through the pages. Sooner or later, one or both of you will be itching to start playing with each other too!
Sex Toys. Sex gadgets are great ways to engage in foreplay. For one, they enable you to learn more about your own bodies and what turns you on best. Some also enable you to please each other without necessarily pushing each other to a climax.
Try this tonight: ask her to show you how to operate her vibrator. (If she doesn’t have one, take this as an opportunity for you to give her a spectacular gift!) As you apply different speeds, pressure and try different angles on her clitoris, keep a mental note of which moves produced the horniest of groans from her and then do the same thing with your tongue.
You can just stash the information away in your head and retrieve it again for the next between the sheets session or do it now! Use the vibrator and your tongue on her alternately.
As for you, there are a lot of sex toys for men too. For instance, try a penis ring. It can be used to delay an orgasm giving you both more time for foreplay.
Sexual Massages. This is by far my personal favorite. Sexual massages can last for hours or be a quick 10 to 15 minute foreplay session. You can easily adjust it to how long you want foreplay to last or how much time you have on your hands.
A sexual massage is pretty much like any other massage except that focus eventually goes to your or your lover’s erogenous zones. The great thing about a sexual massage is that it serves to relax you the first few minutes.
I mean it does indeed start off as a ‘legit’ massage. This helps in relaxing your mind and body and helps in getting rid of stress, which in turn makes your mind and body more sensitive to whatever sexual stimuli.
Here’s a sexual massage move you can apply on her: as she lies down on her back, cover her eyes with a warm, damp cloth to relax her eyes. Now spread her legs and kneel in front of her. Remove her undergarments. Put massage oil on your hands and gently knead her thighs. When you feel that she’s relaxed and succumbing to the pleasures your massage strokes are giving, bend your head slowly and dip a very hot and wet tongue on her genitals!
This move can be done on you too. When she dips her head forward, she can nuzzle your family jewels with her nose and mouth, lick your balls, or run the hardened tip of her tongue on the underside of your penis.
Phone Sex. Have you ever engaged in phone sex? If not, you must try now because it’s extremely exhilarating. You see, we all have that ‘dirty mind’ inside of us but we don’t let it go for many reasons. For instance, you may be afraid to offend your girlfriend/wife with just how ‘harsh’ you can be. I mean, if she’s not used to hearing you say dirty words and then all of a sudden you shout ‘f. me you b.” then yeah, you’ll scare her.
However, most women do want a little roughness but most are ‘shy’ in bed, afraid you would think differently (in a negative way) of her afterwards. The solution is thus to engage in phone sex.
With phone sex you get to role play and ‘test the waters’ more freely. You’ll be surprised at how not seeing each other – and maybe a shot or two of alcohol - can really loosen the tongue.
And who says phone sex should be done when you’re out of town? Hello mobile phones! Call your woman while she’s downstairs and you’re in the garage or in the attic. Talk dirty and talk wild… and then meet in the bedroom!
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